One step at a time...

Before starting any ABA intervention with your child, it's good to have a mind set. It's good to have a mantra to tell yourself in order to be grounded and in order to never give up. It's always good to hold on to a set of rules for yourself.

The first rule:

1)  Learning always has to be magnified

Autism affects each child differently. Each child learns differently. Therefore, based on your child's skills, learning should always be magnified. All those little steps you teach should be reinforced leading up to the final step of learning. For example: If your child can only say a few sounds, don't teach your child a sentence. First teach him sounds that you think would be important for him to know in order for him to communicate. Then, build on those sounds to eventually make words. Once he has words in his repertoire, build up to a two word sentence, a three word sentence and so on. With any skill you teach your child, you want your child to be motivated to learn. If you are teaching too much too soon, the teaching interaction might become punishing, and your child would not be motivated to learn.

2) We have to build on behavior that is already in the child's repertoire

Just like the previous example, don't teach your child to talk in sentences, when your child is finding it challenging to produce a sound or even imitate what you model. First build on imitation of sounds he knows, then build those sounds into words, sentences and so on. Shaping procedures are great for this and I will write more on shaping soon !

3) Only teach observable behavior

During my time in Malaysia, I have heard many say "it boosted his confidence" or "it makes him happy, that's why he flaps his hands". These opinions are merely assumptions. We do not know if it really makes him happy or if it does boost his confidence. It may, but we can't measure happiness and certainly can't measure confidence. What you can measure is the duration your child is engaged independently in his schedule, the number of times your child engaged in head banging, the variety of awesome food your child is consuming and because you have taught him appropriate social interaction, the number of times your child initiates for hugs. This is the hardest task for a parent. I can't imagine because I do not have kids of my own. But if I did, I imagine this part will be the hardest and the most difficult emotionally. However, seeing behavior in observable terms, helps you become a better teacher for your child. It helps you make good decisions and teach appropriate behavior so your child can become more independent and look more like his/her peers.

Now finally, the mantra that a parent should follow is this "Magnify and teach observable behavior so learning is fun".

Key words: Magnify, Teach, Observable = FUN.

Teaching your child should be a really fun process. It should be a time where you and your child spend together and learn things from each other. Your child should be motivated to learn, and you should be motivated to teach. Teaching should never be a struggle. It should always be a shaping process. It should always be little steps at a time...